You Are Your Thoughts

Your thoughts run your world...

Have you ever sat back and though about your thoughts?  The very act of thinking about your thoughts is called metacognition.  When our brains develop around age 12 we all have the ability to think about our thoughts.  

1) What messages do you tell yourself throughout the day?

2) What do you say about other people in your head that you come across in life?

3) Are your thoughts mostly positive or negative?

4) What is the first thing you think about when you wake up? Positive or negative?

5) Do you have a positive view of your world or negative?

6) Do you build yourself up or bring yourself down with your thoughts?

These are just a few simple questions to ask yourself.  If your'e not sure about the answer take the rest of your day to analyze your thoughts as you go about your human activities.  At the end of the day you have an awareness of what type of thinker you are.

It's extremely important to have awareness of what you tell yourself throughout your human day.  If you come to a realization that most of your thoughts are putting others down, putting yourself down, negative outlook, poor view of the world around you then you can change all of this.  It's simple!  All you have to do is bring more awareness to your thoughts and when you find yourself going down a negative thought alley, change it!  Just like that, just change it.  Here's how:

1) The world is against me/ I'm the creator of my own destiny

2) I can't stand people/ everyone is different and uniquely beautiful in their own way

3) People are toxic/ there is so much I can learn from others insecurities or negative personality traits because I see myself in others.  Once you see yourself in others you can make healthy changes

4) I hate my job/ this job is just for now and it's allowing me to apply for other jobs.  This job is just for now because it's giving me the money to work on my dreams

5) I hate the people I work with/ I can learn a lot from those I work with and they are teaching me how to communicate with difficult people

6) I'm so unhappy/ I'm grateful to have another day on Earth to begin pursuing my dreams and be the best human I can be

7) They are so annoying/ What do I do that's just like them that I can start changing to better my own character

Try to see the best in things know matter what happens!  I had a career I couldn't stand at one point.  During that time I would spend my breaks and lunch breaks writing down ways to pursue my dreams.  When I would go home I would then put time into my dreams instead of being caught in negative thoughts about my career.  

Did someone do you bad in your past or hurt you.  How long are you going to hold onto that hurt before you move on?  You are only hurting yourself at this point by not letting go.  Can't get over your divorce and how your partner treated you?  Now you are being the toxic human that won't move forward and spending to much time in negative thoughts.  Is that all you talk about, your past hurts?  I can bet other humans don't like interacting with you much because you are a Debby Downer.  Change that!  Be a positive person and shut up about your past hurts and start building a beautiful future each day!

You have the power to create your own destiny.  You can only blame yourself if you choose not to put time and energy into pursuing your dreams.  Stop blaming other humans for your downfalls and instead put time and energy into building your character, pursuing your dreams, and doing whatever it is that makes you smile.  You are the creator of your own destiny.  

Go be a better you!

Are YOU Living?

Time and time I ask myself, are you living?  What I mean by this is, are you living the life you want to live or going through the motions in auto pilot and letting life happen to you.  I always want my answer to be, I'm living and I'm constantly creating the life I want to live as a direct result of my actions and thinking.

What you think can be a direct result to how you are living.  Are your thoughts positive or negative?  Ae you constantly in a state of worry or happiness?  Are putting others down or building them up?  Thoughts make up a lot what you do with your life, how you treat other people, and are a direct result of what type of influencer or role model you are.  Like it or not we are all role models as there are always people watching what we do and how we act.  

With all that said, I try not to curse.  Yeah, yeah, whatever I curse.  However I try to keep it to a minimum with awareness of whose in earshot.  Now that I just wrote that statement I realize how BS it is and that I should not curse at all.  GAME ON!  I'll let you know how that goes...

So, am I living?  I think I can do better.  I'm doing a lot of what I want to do, however not all of what I want to do.  I will invest more time into my photography and writing as I've greatly slacked off on these two through my pregnancy and post birth.  I don't and will not be that person that makes excuses as to why they didn't do the things they wanted to in life.  I hope you will not be that person as well.  I hope you are living and doing the things you want and not making sorry crappy excuses as to why you are not daily.  STOP LYING TO YOURSELF!  STOP HOLDING YOURSELF BACK!  Be your biggest cheerleader, be the you you want to be.  Don't wait, be your best you now!

Find YOUR PASSION!

  Sorry, I can’t attend your event or party today because I’m busy.  I’m busy editing photos, reading, lounging in bed, watching a movie, playing the guitar, day dreaming, blogging, wandering Earth capturing photographical moments or researching to assist clients.  Long story short I’m busy.  I’m busy doing things I love to do and this is more important to me right now then talking on the phone to you, texting you, listening to your same complaints or life stressors which you do nothing about other then keep complaining nagging my ear about.  Bottom line, I’d rather be doing this right now because this is what I LOVE to do. 

Although you didn’t ask for it, in my opinion it’s extremely important to have things you love to do in life, passions in life that make you smile, things you can’t tear yourself away from, something that causes you to grin from ear to ear when talking about.  Seven years ago I was in a seven-year relationship with a beautiful man who I still consider a friend today and he would say to me, “you have to do what you love no matter what, you have to have something you love to do when we are apart.”  At the time I didn’t get it nor understand what he meant.  I do now!  I watched him graduate from college then do something completely different than what he went to school for because that’s what he loved and still loves to do and that’s what inspired him!  He inspired me!

I can’t speak for all females, however I do know so many women give up on their dreams and dive deep into relationships putting their all into their mate.  Yes, it’s important to spend time with your significant other, however it’s also important to break away and do what YOU love to do.  After-all time away from a mate makes the heart grow fonder and gives one a realization of how much you value the time spent together when together.  I was that female at one point in my life who’s life evolved around my mate and didn’t spend time on my own doing things I love to do.  Over the years I’ve re-found my passions in life and started to and still to this day spend a lot of my time on my passions.  I highly value my alone time because it gives me time to re-connect with my soul every time I’m taking a picture of a beautiful landscape, watching a movie I love in theatres, researching how to assist a client, playing the guitar, or simply reaching deep sleep where rapid eye movement takes place and awakening with a realization and having that AHA moment!  Doing these things and making the time to do these things keeps me smiling, keeps me motivated, they even foster new found passions in my life.  I love to write, which is why I blog, I also write poetry and short stories which is something I’ve done since I was a child.  I have notebooks from childhood of stories and poems I wrote that made me smile.

We all have something we love to do.  If you are one of those who state, “I don’t have anything I love to do, I have no hobbies.”  Bullshit!  Yes you do, you just haven’t realized it yet.  We all have something we love to do!  Think back to when you were a kid and what you dreamed of, or what you loved to play, perhaps what you are really good at, what inspired you?  We all smile, what makes you smile? 

I hear many women state my children are my life, everything I do evolves around them.  Okay that’s cute and dandy but what else?  You can do something that involves children, I have a friend who created a children’s clothing line, my Aunt created a daycare, I see women blogging about children, or Mom’s that are now coaches, Moms who are authors, Moms who are photographers capturing moments of their children’s life and spending time on Pinterest or Instagram creating!  That’s all so beautiful to me, you found something you love and created a hobby out of it!  You can explore online and find out how you can create an activity for yourself involving your children which can turn into a hobby that you love.

Men do it to! If you like to work with your hands create your passion out of something you love to do, whether it be starting your own construction business, landscape business, acting, photography, video game development, drawing, or writing a book.  There are so many things you can spend your time on that create a beautiful smile on your face.

I personally feel I can’t be with a man who has no hobbies and doesn’t know what creates a fire in their own heart.  I don’t want you to spend 100% of your time with me because I need to break away and do what I love which makes me love you more.  I’ve been in relationships where men think I don’t care about them because I’m not texting them every second of the day nor acting jealous.  I’ve been told it makes certain men feel as if I don’t care or I’m out cheating on them.  So in turn they create events to try and make me jealous or talk about so and so hitting on them or the attention they get out and about in the world.  You don’t need me to validate you and I don’t need you to validate me.  If someone is going to cheat they are going to cheat, end of story.  You are where you choose to be.  Every second of your life you have a choice, choose wisely.

I’ve been told, you’re going to miss me one day!  Okay, if I don’t miss you today nor reach out to you, chances are I’m not going to miss you…  just being honest.  This type of statement makes me feel you are desperate, have no hobbies, selfish, immature, or simply you just haven’t found yourself yet.  I've been told, "I just wanted you to feel like I needed you."  Why would anyone wish for another being to need them?  Once again, get a hobby and don't sit around wanting someone to NEED you, instead wish the best for people and take a deeper exploration of self and find what makes you want others to need you.  You should always wish the best for people, in my opinion.  I care, but I don’t care at the same time.  Meaning I care about your well-being, but I don’t care enough to assist your negative irrational thoughts.  Go get a hobby.

Sleeping around is not a hobby ladies and gents.  Yea I said it!  Sleeping around shows theirs a piece of you that you are yet to discover which fosters desires to seek bodily pleasures from another being.  Sleeping around shows your lack of hobbies, lack of commitment, and lack of personal self-worth to care-fully about your health and what you can pick up from your random sex partners.  When you have sex with someone or lay next to someone you exchange energy.  Energy is important to me and I prefer my energy to be a certain way without contamination.  After all, condoms don’t protect against everything! 

I’m on two different online dating websites, however I don’t spend my entire day on them nor do I spend my entire thought process on wishing for love, wanting a partner, or even having my conversations solely about desires to not be alone.  NO!  Chances are you will meet someone who’s most likely a great partner for you by being true and authentic to self.  I could probably do better and create times to actually go on a date, but dang most times I’d rather be doing something else.  I will probably fall in love one day, if I don’t it’s not the end of the world. 

What makes you get in bed at night and be so excited to get up to do the next day?  Whatever that is, chances are that is what you should be doing.  I’m not talking about drugs or self-loathing activities.  I’m talking about what makes your heart beat faster, what makes you smile while doing, what makes you eager to get up?  Only you can find your hobby.  Only you can find your true you.  Only you can help you the most in living a happy life and fulfilled life.

Happiness is attractive, a smile is attractive.  People who live their purpose are more attractive to me.  Those with negative outlooks or stuck in jobs they hate are not attractive.   If you don’t like your life change it.  Yes, I know it doesn’t happen overnight nor do I encourage you to be like me and just quit, unless that’s what you truly need to do.   Find your happiness and once you put it on and wear it every-day you beam with light from the inside out and have a special glow about you that attracts more and more happiness.  By being positive and happy you create an environment in your body that builds upon more positivity and happiness.  Negativity is choice.  Happiness is choice. 

We were all born one day and we will die one day, this is inevitable.  This thought alone makes me do things every-day that I love to do.  Knowing that one day I will die makes me want to live each day doing things I love to do.  I want to have memories of happy times.  I don’t want to be a person that says, “I wish I would’ve.”  I strive every-day to say, “I did and it was a fucking blast!”

NOW GO DO YOU!  I LOVE YOU!