Are You NICE?

Nice Humans... Do you know some?

Over the past few months I’ve had a few encounters with some humans who weren’t very nice?  Why?  Who knows? 

First impressions imprint into the human brain instantly.  Within the first 10 seconds of meeting someone humans judge and come to realizations, from which the human is then categorized into the human brain. Which category do you fall into when you meet people?

I know I’m not the best which means I’m definitely striving to be a nice human to those I come into contact with, but some of you humans are really testing me lately.  What would Jesus do?  What would the Dalai Lama do?  What would your Grandma do?  What would Zulekha do?  Apparently at times I will yell, flip someone off, curse, and maybe just curse someone out in my head.  I’M TRYING NOT TO DO THESE THINGS…  walk away is the best answer when it comes to the rude humans.  

In Febraury I met someone who looked me up and down like I was a piece of… oh I wont say.  This really hurt my feelings and got me thinking, wow I don’t even know this human nor does this human know me but they give me nothing but negativity.  We can’t change everyones minds about us when they choose to judge.  We can make our best attempts to not let these encounters sway us and instead we can stand tall, smile, and move forward with our lives. Afterall there are so many NICE, COMPASSIONATE SOULS, HAPPY HUMANS, GIVING NOTHING BUT UNCONDITIONAL POSITIVE REGARD.  

As humans all inhabiting this Earth let’s try and make great attempts to be nice to one another.  When we meet for the first time let’s not look at skin color, clothing, hair, stature and anything else that causes instant judgment.  Let’s smile and introduce ourselves and hope the BEST! 

I LOVE YOU.

Compliments Are Nice

Are you a human who compliments other humans?  I've really taken notice lately to how many humans "hate" on other humans.  

Recently my family and I were at an event and I overheard someone sharing some wonderful news so I ran over and threw out some compliments and then...  Mrs Debby Downer quickly jumped in with all her hating remarks while trying make her hate sound concerned and nice.  I didn't have my pie of be nice to humans to slap her with so I just complimented again when her negativity stopped.  

Where's the love?  Oh here's another, you show someone or tell someone about something amazing and they have to ONE UP YOU.  "Well that's cool, but what I have is wayyyyy better."  Why can't humans acknowledge another humans without having to show or express why "they" are "better."  

Now that I"m a Mommy I'm definitely running away fast from negative Mommy's who speak negatively about children and babies.  OOOOOHHHHHHH good example right here- the new Gerber Baby was posted today and my goodness Mommy's left the most hateful comments ABOUT A BABY!  WOW.  Kairi is a beautiful baby and wow did some of the hating Mommy's really show their ugliness with their comments.  I can only hope that those women grow quickly so they aren't teaching their children that same hatefulness.  
-------and we wonder why bullies are in schools...  it starts with the parents.  Lead by example.

Let's all take a moment and ground ourselves.  Go frolic on a beach, have a good nap, workout, read a good back, watch a happy movie, or MAKE LOVE!  Do whatever it takes to get that negativity out of you.  

Love is so much better.

Happiness is choice.

Let's all be nice humans.

Simple Human

We recently bought a new trash can from Simple Human which got me thinking...  how simple am I?

Am I holding on to crap I know longer need because I think I might need it one day?  Am I materialistic?  Am I holding onto friends who know longer fit into my life or may even be dangerous for my life?  Simple human questions to ponder along with a whole lot more.

Just like you I live in this Universe where as humans you wouldn't even see us if taking a glance from space.  Yet, we make ourselves out to be so important and some portray they are better then others.  Are you a human who speaks to other humans?  What if that human is homeless?  Would you help your fellow human?  Although many wouldn't call it an opportunity, I had the amazing opportunity for my life to be drastically changed a few years ago and went from driving my muscle car, my own spot, and my fun life to sleeping on buses, sleeping in the streets, muscle car gone, money gone, and living daily with no place to call home.  This was the best thing that could've happened to me although I didn't realize it.  It brought me back to SIMPLICITY.

As humans we don't need much when we think we need everything.  I can't have kids until I land that job, can't travel until I make this much money, I need this car, and that toy, and gimme, gimme, and gimme some more.  We want so much all while missing the amazingness all around us every single day all day long.  Life is so simple, yet we make it so dramatic.  Why?  Who are you trying to impress human?  

I met the most amazing people on Earth when I was roaming and leaving my material possessions behind to never be seen again.  I had the best conversations with other people who didn't have all that jazz that society is selling us.  I had the best insights while sitting on the beach or simply walking.  I learned there are humans who don't have conversations about themselves and drama.  The simple act of physically moving your body forward and walking sparks creativity and gets your brain going.   I learned so much about myself by being without.  I learned so much about "friends and family."  I learned my friends and family are everywhere as we are all interconnected to one another and this amazing Universe.  I learned strangers are family members we are yet to meet.  Some should be avoided like the plague and beautiful energy sent their way because after-all, that human is also one with you which makes you them and them YOU!

How simple is your life or are you living in chaos?  Here's a simple start, remove the clutter out of your life.  We don't need to own EVERYTHING.  Shed items and humans that know longer make your life a BETTER LIFE, stop waiting!  Feathers will be ruffled and when they are be a duck, shake it off, and move forward.  Your future self will thank you for it.

WHAT CAN YOU REMOVE?
1) junk
2) humans- stop waiting for that perfect time.  DO IT NOW!
3) old clothes
4) clean your garage
5) clean your car out
6) any items blocking natural sunlight from entering your home
7) clutter out of walkways and doorways- why shouldn't you move easily throughout your home?
8) old toys
9) useless chatter in your mind- yep, that can removed too
10) negative thinking
11) negative humans
12) negativity
13) bad relationships
14) self sabotaging self talk
15) whatever is not bringing you back to simplicity

Everyday we are teaching one another whether it be vicarious or direct.  We learn from one another through observation and contact.  We learn we either want to be nothing like that human or more like that human.  We learn about ourselves by watching others.  What you see that human do that you don't like- remove the same actions that cause you to be like that human from your life.  Remove the excess and bring YOU back to SIMPLICITY.

I LOVE YOU, YOU SIMPLE HUMAN YOU.

SEX

Let’s talk about SEX baby! Are you having it?  Are you enjoying it?  Are you fearing it?

Most humans have sex whether in or out of a relationship.  Some choose multiple sex partners, some choose monogamy, some choose abstinence, and some are just plain old confused by the act.  Which are you?

I’m in a monogamous relationship, so my Love and I are only having sex with one another because that’s what we choose.  We’re nudists so other humans think we have sex with multiple humans, however we’re not lifestyle when it comes to the act.  So were having amazing sex just with each other.  I personally love sex and feel now that I’m in my mid 30’s I honestly enjoy it so much more.  I attribute increased enjoyment to increased self-awareness, insight, body acceptance, and happiness.  

When I was single unfortunately I wasn’t having much sex.  Why?  Fear of catching something.  Now that I’m in a relationship OMGoodness, SEX Please, oh were done… more sex please!

Women with children in relationships, I’m calling out to you!  Let’s have a brief chat…

Are you having sex on the regular?  Are you purposely making excuses to not have sex with you partner? Are you to tired?  Well Mama, shake all that off, take your clothes off, and jump on top of your man or lady!  Would you rather someone else do it?  Let me increase your awareness of the outside world for a second.  When your man or women leaves your home he or she will encounter and observe numerous other humans throughout their day and you know what? There will be some out of this world good looking people they come across.  They will see sex all day long, observe what’s peeking out of low cut shirts, taking a second glance at that juicy booty that walked by, noticing that bulge, and taking secret looks at those muscles.  At the end of the day are they coming home to you in a mumu looking as sloppy as you can look?

            Think on that one for a bit! 

So what can we do as women? Try!  Make an effort with the way you look, with what you put on, I’m asking you to make an attempt to be sexy.  Is that too much to ask for?  Or would you rather your partner get laid by that sexy lil thang at the gas station?  Hmmmm….  Oh, you don’t feel sexy?  What can you do to make efforts to feel good about yourself?  Workout, drink more water, stop eating your kids treats when you give them out, go for a walk with your kids, make healthy food choices, where flattering clothes, just a few things to think of…  do something that make your partner say, “dayuuum you look good,” hey sexy!”  

All the single ladies! All the single men!  How’s your sex life?  What do you want it to be?  I don’t hate on anyone who chooses multiple partners, after all Bobby Brown said it’s your prerogative.  Single people tend to do better about feeling good about themselves.  Meaning singles have increased confidence, tend to hit the gym more often, purchase flattering clothes, walk with heads held high, and all that jazz.  Protect yourself and have a freaking orgasmic blast!  If you don’t feel good about yourself, do something about it!!!!

Ladies, I’m calling out to you again!  How often are you initiating sex with your partner?  Keep your partners sexual eyes for you burning!  Are you not initiating…  start!  Your partner will be so happy!  Oh, are you one of THOSE WOMEN who get mad if your partner slaps your ass, grabs your boobs, or touches your hakunamatata?  Don’t get mad, if it’s in public the singles are secretly wishing they had that type of affection daily.  Take a lesson from your partner and the next time your partner walks by give a sexual touch or grab.  It could lead to…. ohhhh, ahhhhh, yeaaaaa!

With that said, go have fun! Oh I forgot, do you not feel like you’re good enough?  Watch a porno or have more talks with your friend who thoroughly enjoys sex and take some notes!  

Hope this post wasn’t to sexy for you...  if it was, watch a porno!  Even better, make a porno!   

I almost forgot!  Make sure you are going down on your partner!  Remember, what you don't do-that sexy lil thang at the gas station will.... so do it!!!

Merry Christmas and Happy Thoughts

Happy  Holidays and a very Merry Christmas to you all.  I love you.  

I hope everyone has had a happy holiday to those who celebrate and happy days to those who don't.  I love the holidays, people are nicer, happier, and all that jazz.  What do the holidays mean to you?

When I think of the holidays I fantasize about Christmas gatherings, music, enjoying time with one another, good spirited humans, an overall joyful time with lots of food, love, and a Happy Happy New Year!

I love the holidays!

Are you a happy person to be around during the holidays?  Take a minute, sit back, and think?  Do I give off good vibes and love to people?  If I don't it needs to be fixed ASAP.  If I do, am I doing it everyday and not just the holidays?

It's important to yourself and for those you come into contact with to have good energy and a positive well being.  After all, who likes a Debby Downer-I don't and neither do You!  I love cheerful humans with positive things to speak about and forget the gossip, we all know it's annoying.  Be happy!  Do what you have to do to achieve that happiness and to put a smile on your face, you deserve it.  What does that mean to you, to put a smile on your own face?  Do you even know anymore?

To put a smile on my face, I write... duh.  I listen to good music, speak to those who are happy humans without negativity, dance, laugh, workout, watch favorite shows, capture, go places, and most of all be with my family and cuddle up with my Man.  It's good to know what put's a smile on your face, by having that insight you can boost your spirits.  Don't ever blame other humans for you being sad, depressed, or mad.  Yes, they will do things that make you upset, but YOU HAVE THE POWER to continue to allow yourself to be mad, sad, depressed, or move on to things that make you happy.  We all have flaws, those are just your thoughts and you always have the ability to change them.  Smile.  

Happy Holidays.  I love you!

Happy Holidays

The holidays are here along with elevated spirits, joy, and laughter.  I love this time of the year because humans are more polite.  Notice the way humans tell each other things like;
"Happy Holidays"
"Merry Christmas"
"Happy Thanksgiving"
"Have a wonderful holiday"

During this time of the year humans actually acknowledge one another and speak.  It's amazing!  Why can't this go on through out the rest of the year?  Why can't humans acknowledge one another all year?  It's so easy, all it takes is;
"Good Morning"
"Good Evening"
"Have a Wonderful Day"
"Have a Beautiful Day"
"Enjoy the Rest of Your Day"
"I Hope You Have a Great Day"

I put a lot of those words in caps because I want them to jump out at you, engrain into your subconscious, float around, and then just maybe you will begin to use them throughout your day.  I hope...

Be a nice happy human.

Are YOU Living?

Time and time I ask myself, are you living?  What I mean by this is, are you living the life you want to live or going through the motions in auto pilot and letting life happen to you.  I always want my answer to be, I'm living and I'm constantly creating the life I want to live as a direct result of my actions and thinking.

What you think can be a direct result to how you are living.  Are your thoughts positive or negative?  Ae you constantly in a state of worry or happiness?  Are putting others down or building them up?  Thoughts make up a lot what you do with your life, how you treat other people, and are a direct result of what type of influencer or role model you are.  Like it or not we are all role models as there are always people watching what we do and how we act.  

With all that said, I try not to curse.  Yeah, yeah, whatever I curse.  However I try to keep it to a minimum with awareness of whose in earshot.  Now that I just wrote that statement I realize how BS it is and that I should not curse at all.  GAME ON!  I'll let you know how that goes...

So, am I living?  I think I can do better.  I'm doing a lot of what I want to do, however not all of what I want to do.  I will invest more time into my photography and writing as I've greatly slacked off on these two through my pregnancy and post birth.  I don't and will not be that person that makes excuses as to why they didn't do the things they wanted to in life.  I hope you will not be that person as well.  I hope you are living and doing the things you want and not making sorry crappy excuses as to why you are not daily.  STOP LYING TO YOURSELF!  STOP HOLDING YOURSELF BACK!  Be your biggest cheerleader, be the you you want to be.  Don't wait, be your best you now!

Dance on Baby! Dance on!

Do you dance?  You know how it feels when you hear YOUR song and you can't help but bob your head, tap your foot, sing out loud, close your eyes and move your head, or stand up and dance.  Dancing does wonders for the body, the soul, the mind, and your happiness!

I'm THAT PERSON that just gets up and dances.  I can be alone, getting dressed, in a bar, and what makes me love being me is I don't need to drink to move and groove in public.  When I feel it I jam!  If you're like me, amazing.  If not, why not?  Yes, I know we are all different but what's stopping you from busting a move?  I use to be afraid to dance in front of others, then one day I realized I don't care what other people think, why should I?  Are you afraid people are looking?  Are you afraid of what people are thinking about you?  Who cares.  Most likely they're thinking I wish I had that much courage, I wish I could just let loose and not care, I wish I could be more free.  So inspire yourself and by doing so you inspire others to free themselves.

Do you feel you don't have rhythm?  Once again, whether you have the rhythm you want or not don't let that stop you from moving and grooving to your own rhythm.  Remember dancing is about moving to YOUR BEAT!  You don't need to know the latest dance moves or the the newest songs, dancing is about the freedom and beat you feel from within and expressing it in YOUR way.

What does dancing do for you?  Baby let me tell you...
1) makes you feel free
2) releases endorphins
3) gives you a dancers high
4) tones the body
5) gives you a since of individuality
6) improves your mood
7) gives a since of satisfaction
8) decreases depression
9) eliminates depression
10) reduces anxiety
11) promotes happiness
12) increases energy
13) lowers stress
14) promotes weight loss
15) tones your body
16) gives you in overall since of happiness while you're inspiring others to get up and let loose!

There are so many amazing benefits of the simple act of dancing.  Stop being afraid to be you, stop being afraid to express yourself in YOUR way, get up and bust YOUR move!  Next time you're home and feeling stressed, worried, anxious, sad, or mad turn on some music that you love and just dance!

I love that the love of my life will just turn on music and dance.  He will walk up to me, grab me and we just start dancing!  I absolutely love this about him among other things.  He's not afraid to be himself nor is he afraid to enjoy himself through the simple act of dancing.  I fall in love with him more and more each time I see how free he is in his mind and body.

Dance with your kids, dance alone, dance with your love, dance with your family, dance with strangers, dance at events, dance at the bar, whatever you do please don't be afraid to dance!

Now turn on something that will get you moving and get up and DANCE!

How's Your Mental Health? Are You Happy?

How is your mental health?

So many people spend hours upon hours in the gym elevating their physical health and then go back home to their slump of depression, anxiety, anger, or constant worry.  Are you one of those people?  Then there are those who don't invest into their physical health nor mental at all.  Are you one of those people?

Mental health is just as important as physical health, after all you're walking, laying, sitting, running, etc with yourself all day long, with YOUR thoughts which are in correlation with your mental health. The way you view yourself, others, and even the world is a direct result of your mental health.

Let's take a moment and see where you stand?  Ask yourself a few questions...

1) Are you happy or sad most of the day?
2) Are you a positive or negative person?
3) Do you see the best in others?
4) Is your glass half full or half empty?
5) Do you constantly worry?
6) Are your worries the same as they were 6 months ago? A year ago?
7) Do you actively engage in bettering your life?
8) Is your main topic of conversation about how sad you are?
9) Is your main topic of conversation putting someone else down or yourself?
10) Do your conversations involve around yourself?
11) Do you seek to better others without being pushy?
12) Are you happy to open your eyes each day?
13) Do your thoughts rest in the past?
14) Do you have an off switch to your thoughts?
15) Do you consume alcohol on a regular basis?
16) Do you consume drugs on a regular basis?
17) Are you on auto pilot?
18) Are you happy?

Lots of questions?  Think of it this way, isn't it important to know yourself and where you stand mentally?  Once you know where you stand you can begin improving your mental health.

Begin to ask yourself each day, AM I HAPPY?  After you ask yourself this question then focus on what will make you happy.  Remember this, don't focus on what's making you unhappy!  Focus on what will make you happy.  After all we all have one of the same major goals in life, to be happy.    When you focus on what makes you unhappy you are instantly utilizing your negative energy as opposed to utilizing positive energy.  When you focus on what makes you happy you might even notice yourself begin to smile as you brainstorm what makes you happy which is a start to improving your mental health.  Write down things that make you happy and keep them somewhere you can see them everyday or even throughout the day to help kick yourself in the butt to begin doing those things.  When you feel sad, down, depressed look at that list and do something off of it or at least begin working towards a goal on your list.

Happiness is something you should be striving for each and everyday.  You might lose friends and you might gain friends!  When you begin to change your life for the better you will start to notice those individuals or groups that bring you down, constantly talk about their problems, nag, complain, only day dream without being a doer, Debby downers, people who suck the life out of you, addicts, alcoholics, and negative people.  When you realize how these people infect you, you will also realize how you don't need to be around them.  Are some of these your family members or close friends?  If so, keep them on an extremely short leash and spend more time with people who are positive and bring out the best in you.  Spend more time with people who encourage you to be better, spend more time with yourself getting to know yourself and bettering your life.

You have the power to improve your mental health.

You have the power to be happy.

Every single second of everyday you have a choice.  You have a choice to be positive or negative, complain about someone or change your topic, nag or promote, sadness or happiness, anger or happiness, worry or improve your thoughts.  Every single second of everyday you have a choice to be happy.