SEX

Let’s talk about SEX baby! Are you having it?  Are you enjoying it?  Are you fearing it?

Most humans have sex whether in or out of a relationship.  Some choose multiple sex partners, some choose monogamy, some choose abstinence, and some are just plain old confused by the act.  Which are you?

I’m in a monogamous relationship, so my Love and I are only having sex with one another because that’s what we choose.  We’re nudists so other humans think we have sex with multiple humans, however we’re not lifestyle when it comes to the act.  So were having amazing sex just with each other.  I personally love sex and feel now that I’m in my mid 30’s I honestly enjoy it so much more.  I attribute increased enjoyment to increased self-awareness, insight, body acceptance, and happiness.  

When I was single unfortunately I wasn’t having much sex.  Why?  Fear of catching something.  Now that I’m in a relationship OMGoodness, SEX Please, oh were done… more sex please!

Women with children in relationships, I’m calling out to you!  Let’s have a brief chat…

Are you having sex on the regular?  Are you purposely making excuses to not have sex with you partner? Are you to tired?  Well Mama, shake all that off, take your clothes off, and jump on top of your man or lady!  Would you rather someone else do it?  Let me increase your awareness of the outside world for a second.  When your man or women leaves your home he or she will encounter and observe numerous other humans throughout their day and you know what? There will be some out of this world good looking people they come across.  They will see sex all day long, observe what’s peeking out of low cut shirts, taking a second glance at that juicy booty that walked by, noticing that bulge, and taking secret looks at those muscles.  At the end of the day are they coming home to you in a mumu looking as sloppy as you can look?

            Think on that one for a bit! 

So what can we do as women? Try!  Make an effort with the way you look, with what you put on, I’m asking you to make an attempt to be sexy.  Is that too much to ask for?  Or would you rather your partner get laid by that sexy lil thang at the gas station?  Hmmmm….  Oh, you don’t feel sexy?  What can you do to make efforts to feel good about yourself?  Workout, drink more water, stop eating your kids treats when you give them out, go for a walk with your kids, make healthy food choices, where flattering clothes, just a few things to think of…  do something that make your partner say, “dayuuum you look good,” hey sexy!”  

All the single ladies! All the single men!  How’s your sex life?  What do you want it to be?  I don’t hate on anyone who chooses multiple partners, after all Bobby Brown said it’s your prerogative.  Single people tend to do better about feeling good about themselves.  Meaning singles have increased confidence, tend to hit the gym more often, purchase flattering clothes, walk with heads held high, and all that jazz.  Protect yourself and have a freaking orgasmic blast!  If you don’t feel good about yourself, do something about it!!!!

Ladies, I’m calling out to you again!  How often are you initiating sex with your partner?  Keep your partners sexual eyes for you burning!  Are you not initiating…  start!  Your partner will be so happy!  Oh, are you one of THOSE WOMEN who get mad if your partner slaps your ass, grabs your boobs, or touches your hakunamatata?  Don’t get mad, if it’s in public the singles are secretly wishing they had that type of affection daily.  Take a lesson from your partner and the next time your partner walks by give a sexual touch or grab.  It could lead to…. ohhhh, ahhhhh, yeaaaaa!

With that said, go have fun! Oh I forgot, do you not feel like you’re good enough?  Watch a porno or have more talks with your friend who thoroughly enjoys sex and take some notes!  

Hope this post wasn’t to sexy for you...  if it was, watch a porno!  Even better, make a porno!   

I almost forgot!  Make sure you are going down on your partner!  Remember, what you don't do-that sexy lil thang at the gas station will.... so do it!!!

Are You Present?

Talks of being present have surfaced to mainstream and social media, which has me wondering if people are just talking about being present as a fad or are people actually being fully present.  hmmmm...

Over the course of the years I've read quite a few books on being present and can say I've learned quite a bit.  Does this make me a master at being present, no.  However I do try.  Being present appears to take on different definitions depending who is talking about being present.  For me being present means to actually BE.  If I'm in a conversation with another human being you wont find me checking my phone or my head wandering about looking everywhere else.  I make it a point to be fully present with the human being in front of me by giving them eye contact, actually responding back to what they are talking about, and not letting my thoughts drift off to other places.  

When you look around public places take note of how many people are on their cell phones while at lunch, dinner, breakfast, or with another human.  I meet up with different people and notice how they can't put their phones down or go running to their phone if it rings.  I understand people have children and need to stay in contact for their safety, for those who have adult children why are you running to your phone?  

If I'm working on a project I try to put my all into it, even if it's something I don't like I will make it the best I can while doing my absolute best.  I've had jobs I didn't like very much, but guarantee I performed highly being and doing the best I could.  If I'm at work and a co-worker speaks to me I actually turn and face them.  Not just my head, but my entire body so they know they have my full attention.  I personally don't prefer to talk to people who can't even look at me, it's actually kind of annoying.  Like dang, you can't put your phone down for a second to speak, or you can't spare 30 seconds out of your day to look at me.  I've worked places where I would say good morning to people walking in and they would keep their heads turned away from me and just give me a wave.  Wow, what you're doing is that important in life.  Okay buddy.  I'm going to say it, work is not that important when there is a live breathing human being.  Of course you can't diddy daddle around talking forever, however there's nothing wrong with brief eye contact and a hello.  

When you're present with another human you get to see their facial expressions and their body language, which at times says way more then what's coming out of their mouth audibly.  You can read a lot about a person by paying attention to their body language.  

Being present with children is extremely important.  After all you're showing them how to be present by exampling being present and without talking about being present.  You're teaching them how to communicate.  

Being present in nature is so amazing to let go of your thoughts and take awareness of the sound of the wind, birds singing, dogs barking, a lizard running through the brush, the precise trail of ants, the forms of the trees, the beautiful colors.  There is so much to take note of in nature that remind you of how simple and delicate life really is.  

I love to be present with our pets and watch them play, they are hilarious to watch and most importantly they enjoy and love the attention of me being present with them.  Have you noticed how pets will look you in the eyes?  

I love being present with my baby boy in the oven and feeling his kicks and movements.  What a wonderful feeling to feel his life inside of me!!!  I can't help but smile. 

A lot of being present for me means to turn off my thoughts and BE!  Turning off your thoughts is something we can all do, just stop thinking and BE!  It's so enjoyable.  

Try being present with the next person you are with and instead of thinking of your agenda and the point you don't need to make, the opinion you don't need to give, the judgment you can keep to yourself, the gossip that's garbage, just be present and listen.  Be present with your children, with your pets, with nature, with your co-workers, while washing dishes, while taking a bath.  Throw your thoughts out and turn them off and just be.  You can do it you human you, I believe in you.  

Why Leaving the Negativity Out of Family Communication Will Increase Healthy Relationships

So many families these days are blended with Step Siblings, Step Mothers, Step Fathers, and Step Grandparents compiling a big mixing bowl of new family members.  Not only are families blended with new brothers and sisters but also mixed with new cultures.  Our family comprises it all.

My parents divorced I believe almost 10 years ago now, crazy how time just pushes along and years have went by.  They are both re-married now and with their new marriages came new Step Parents and five new Step Siblings.  I can honestly say I get along well with all of of my Step Siblings and love each of their uniqueness and new personalities they bring.  I've had some highs and lows with my Step Parents and at the end of the day I check myself and remind myself that these are the people my parents chose out of love and just as any relationship there will be arguments and disagreements and most importantly am I judging them more harshly because they aren't my biological parents?  Am I treating them with love?

I was one of those who thought my parents would never divorce so when it happened it was like pigs flying to me.  Parents divorce doesn't only impact the parents but the children as well know matter what age they might be.  I was in my late twenties when my parents divorced and couldn't image their home breaking apart and at the time couldn't imagine them moving on to other people, it didn't even cross my mind.

What I've learned from my parents divorce along with many other friends and families members divorces is that if it ever happens to me, which I hope it doesn't that I will have to accept that my once partner will be in a new relationship with new children.  I will have to accept that another women may nurture my children as if they are her own and they will develop relationships with a new family.  Your children will always view you as their Mother or fFather because the love of a biological mother or father can't be replaced.  

With divorce or dissolve in a relationship you can either hate the person you're Ex Wife/Ex Husband/Ex Boyfriend/Ex Girlfriend is with or you can accept them.  Talking down about the new spouse of an ex lover to your children doesn't help, nor does talking down about your ex to your children know matter what the age.  It only makes you come across as jealous and unable to adapt.  Allowing your children to decide about the people in their lives should be completely left up to them and most importantly for you, now it's time to move forward with your happiness.  You can either continue to reflect on what could've been, how things were, how you were treated, what could've been done differently, how your ex treats their new partner differently then how they treated you, not wanting your children to develop new relationships with families, but where will this get you?  Your children know matter what shouldn't have to hear these things.  If you're saying these things, STOP!  Keep your negativity to yourself.  Instead you can focus your energy on being the best person you can be and being happy while moving forward.

If you're now with someone you don't see a future in, change it!  Don't hold on for comfort, run and change it fast because years will go on and you will continue to feel uncomfortableness.  Be an example of what a happy person is, be an example of positive change, be an example of moving forward, be an example of not speaking negatively about others, be an example of only being in a relationship if it's complete love and acceptance, be an example!

I remember years ago being in a relationship in which my partner had a child and the child's mother would send me nasty/rude texts and call me saying such negative things about me and my partner.  I could've lowered myself to her level but instead I chose to not let her negatively impact the way in which I treat her child, I never spoke negatively about her, and when I saw her I acknowledged her presence saying hi with a smile on my face everytime.  Don't let another person rob you of your happiness.  To be honest they're not the ones robbing you, you're robbing yourself.  You have a choice to choose happiness or bitter resentment and anger.  Happiness is always a better choice.

Please refrain from telling your children know matter what the age they are choosing another Mother and Father over you.  Don't guilt trip them.  Instead take a step back and re-analyze yourself while asking self, am I being love?  Could there be something I could be doing differently in a positive way.  Don't put expectations on your children, if they don't come around enough you can let them know you love spending time with them and bring up happy memories.  Refrain from putting it on them because you may just be doing something that's pushing them away.  You can ask if you are, but don't place the blame all on them.  If you ask, accept their response without being defensive and perhaps you can then ask how the relationship can move forward in a loving positive way.  It's hard for people to accept answers they don't want to hear, swallow your pride and focus on the love.

If you want a child/friend/partner to spend more time with you then start initiating.  Perhaps they need time to realize again that you are a safe place, so call them and have brief conversations keeping it all positive and one day these conversations will get longer and longer with face to face contact next.  People like to talk to people who speak happiness and positivity.  Don't speak negatively about anyone in your conversation know matter how you may feel about another, if you can't refrain from speaking negatively about them then don't bring them up.  If the other person brings them up you can say things like, "I wish them happiness," "I hope all is well with them,"  or simply change the subject.  It's that simple.  But don't intentionally bring your negativity into the conversation.  When you find yourself thinking, I wish this person would call me or come over, call them and have light convo.  Call them and set up a date to get together.  If they break the date they may just need more time.  It's not up to you to decide if it's been to long, simply just keep reaching out in a loving way.  Be love.

Yesterday I spent such a good day with my Mother, Father, Stepmother, Mother-in-law, and Love of my life.  We went to our Baby Boys 3D/4D ultrasound and we were all together.  Everyone got along and there was no negativity, it was such a memorable experience.  It was nice to see that my Mother and Father could be in the same room together and smile and be happy.  I hope you are able to provide that type of experience for your children as well.

BE LOVE, BE HAPPY.

Why You Should Encourage Your Partner to Pursue Their Hobbies and Projects

When you're not working what do you find yourself doing?

This is what I do when I'm not working; blog, photography, and of course watch some movies.  But when it comes to hobbies or projects, blogging and photography are at the top of my list.  

This post came about because I found myself getting frustrated with my love for his hobbies and projects.  He stays up late sometimes working on his hobbies and/or projects and when he's not in the bed I can't sleep as well.  I was starting to make my problem his problem until I quickly checked myself.  Thank goodness I can step back and take a holistic view and see the bigger picture looking outside of myself.  

When you do what you love as a human being it makes life that much more rewarding and enjoyable.  With that said I definitely don't want to nor will I get on him anymore about coming to bed when he's lost in time with his hobbies because these are things that make him smile and happy.  I also realized how I've slacked off on my blog and photography which I've dived back into and realized how much I missed my hobbies!  At 27 weeks pregnant now I get tired faster throughout the day which has caused me to slack off on my hobbies, however I'm making sure to fit them back in because after all, these are things I love to do.

Do you have hobbies which cause you to lose track of time?  If you're in a relationship do you have a hobby apart from your partner which brings you happiness?  I hope you do?  If you feel you don't, seriously take a moment and think about what brings you joy when you do it and what causes you to lose track of time.  

Have you made the same mistake I have in coming down on your partner for spending time on their hobbies?  If so it's good to go back to them and let them know you want them to enjoy the things they do in life and if that something brings them joy to keep doing it!  In relationships we bring love to one another and at the same time we have to realize our partners have lives outside of us and encouraging them to do things they love is also showing them how much you love them and their happiness.  

Take time and jot down a list of at least 10 things you love to do.  If you're list goes beyond 10, AMAZING!  If you can't come up with even a few then increase your awareness of yourself as you go about your day so you can take notice of what brings you joy when you're doing it.  You can even look back to your childhood and recall what you daydreamed of doing or brought you happiness.  Chances are those things are most likely the same things you enjoy doing today.  

With that said, hobby on my loves!  Go do something you love!

Putting Your Phone Away Can Increase Healthy Relationships

Albert Einstein said "I fear the day that technology will surpass our human interaction. The world will have a generation of idiots." I don't know if Mr. Einstein said this, but if he did, I totally agree!!!


Have you noticed how everyone is constantly on their phone? Next time you go out to eat take a look around and notice how many people are on their phones as opposed to actually having physical human interaction and communicating with one another. The very presence of a cell phone on a breakfast, lunch, or dinner table impedes human interaction. How so? The person who owns the phone on the table feels the need to constantly check their phone, update where they are, see what others are up to instead of communicating with the one in front of them, the phone beeps or rings, causing live communication to come to a halt. Is it really that difficult to put a phone away for a 30min-45min meal with a live human being. But, can you do more then put it away, can you actually silence your phone? Wow, I know that's a big one, to put it away and silence it! How involved do you need to be with the outside world when you are having live human contact and connection?


Cell phones have always bothered me since they came about. Yes, I do own a cell phone. I have one of the fancy Galaxy Note 8 phones that cost way to much money. I'm guilty of spending to much money on a phone like the rest of society, however I'm not guilty of constantly reaching for my phone and having it on breakfast, lunch, or dinner tables. I'm not guilty of meeting up with a friend or family member and being on my phone checking social media/shopping/updating/searching, I'm not guilty of using my phone as a crutch during moments of silence with friends and family. After all moments of silence are a great time to reflect upon one another and the conversation at hand. Or to simply look around the room and be observant or look around outside and notice earth.


I will not silence my children by putting a tablet or phone in their face. Instead, I will interact with them and communicate with them. I've heard numerous children and even teenagers say they feel as if their parent or parents care more about their cell phone then interacting with them. That's just horrible and sad.


Humans have became so reliant on their phones for directions to where the simple act of navigating their own town or city is difficult without map quest. I've noticed numerous teenagers who can't read an analogue clock and can only tell time by digital. I've noticed so many people who don't know the difference between North, East, South, and West. Are we talking to our children and teaching them or are we checking in on other peoples lives on our cell phones as opposed to building a genuine relationship with another in person.


I don't have many friends because I don't believe social media is a way of keeping in contact and having genuine relationships. I prefer a phone call or meeting in person. Yes, it is nice to see pictures of friends and family on social media, however it's even better to have a live conversation. When was the last time you took the time to hand write someone a letter and send someone actual physical pictures through the mail?


I do believe cell phones can cause a negative impact on relationships, which is why if you ever share a meal with me you will not see my cell phone out. Live human interaction is so much better, genuine, and relationship building. The person on the phone can wait until I'm free to give them a call or text back. I'd rather build with the person right in front me.

Are you in a relationship just to be in one?

I was single for three years before I met the love of my life.  People would tell me, you're in your 30's and approaching mid 30's what are you waiting for?  Why don't you just get into a relationship?  When are you going to have kids? What are you waiting for, you're not getting any younger.

Are you in a relationship just to be in one?  Have you asked yourself this question?  Heres some things to consider;

1) Are you in love or feeling it growing to love?
2) Do more things bother you about your partner then make you happy?
3) Do you complain to other people about your partner?
4) Do you enjoy spending a lot of time with your partner?
5) Do you prefer to vacation without your partner?
6) Do you look at your partner and think, I'm so lucky to have found you...
7) Do you cuddle with your partner?
8) If you are a public affection being, do you show public affection with your partner?
9) At the end of the day do you think, I can't wait to see him/her?
10) Do they broaden your horizons?
11) Do they make you want to be a better person just by being with them?
12) Do you genuinely accept your partner?
13) Are you wishing you were with someone else?
14) Are you happy with your partners short comings?

Think about your answers to these questions and your happiness.  Your happiness is extremely important, after all at then end of the day when you close your eyes you are with yourself and it's good to have good reflections of the day.

I personally spent time in relationships I shouldn't have been in at all because I THOUGHT that was what I wanted until one day I said that's enough of this crap of being around someone I don't really enjoy and can't wait to get away from.  So from that day I decided I would be single until I met THE ONE.  I wouldn't go on repeated dates with people I knew I had zero future with, wouldn't repeat dates of those who annoyed me, wouldn't be with someone just for their title-which I never did, I chose to put myself first before everything and I mean everything!  My family probably felt I was floating in directions I shouldn't, but I was doing everything I loved and enjoyed doing it because after all I would rather meet someone while I'm doing something I love even if society doesn't agree with it.  I'm not trying to please society or my family or anyone else, just me.  That's a hard pill for some to swallow.

So what did I do?  I wandered, I took pictures and re-found my love for photography, I became a nudist and worked at a nudist resort, I begin to learn guitar, I read, I would wake up and just go wherever I wanted, I saw every movie I wanted to see, I sat on many beaches, played in the ocean, met new friends, went to galleries, smoked weed-hehe (not telling you to go smoke), took random road trips, laughed a lot, moved around to different cities, bought a macbook and begin writing, started my blog, started my Instagram, gave up Facebook-as it didn't and still doesn't suit me, I DID ME and enjoyed every moment of it!  I did this for almost four years, I did me!

Then one day I joined Plenty of Fish, yep I did it.  I wrote an honest profile and put up REAL pictures of myself.  Five months later I met the love of my life who completely accepts me for me and I completely accept him for him and now we have a baby on the way!

While I was out doing me for almost four years I never thought I needed to be in a relationship.  I was to busy having a relationship with myself and getting back in touch with me!  One thing I did know is I wouldn't settle and I won't.  If I happen to fall in love I will make sure it's the love of my life and not just be in a relationship to be in one.  Have you ever had a conversation with someone who is just with someone to be with someone, they sound terrible.  I stopped feeling bad for these types of people because every single day they/you have a choice to change your life, every second of everyday!  They/you choose to stay and for what reasons?

List of BS reasons people use...
1) we have kids together, well your kids are learning unhappy relationships from you!
2) we have a home together, stop being materialistic and sell that thing and go start your life!
3) we're comfortable together, doesn't sound like it from the look on your face and the way you complain about him/her..
4) we have a vacation coming up, cancel it and go on one by yourself and watch how many new friends you meet and how much more fun you have without him/her
5) were planning on buying a home, don't do it! Run while you have the chance!
6) we have to many bills together, you can pay bills while not being with someone smarty!
7) what will the neighbors say?  Are the neighbors living your life and are you living to please your neighbors?  STOP!  Go slap yourself!
8) what will my family say?  Are you living to paint a facade of a life and living for other people?  STOP!
Whatever excuse you have, it's BULLSHIT! Wake up already start living for you!

Find YOUR PASSION!

  Sorry, I can’t attend your event or party today because I’m busy.  I’m busy editing photos, reading, lounging in bed, watching a movie, playing the guitar, day dreaming, blogging, wandering Earth capturing photographical moments or researching to assist clients.  Long story short I’m busy.  I’m busy doing things I love to do and this is more important to me right now then talking on the phone to you, texting you, listening to your same complaints or life stressors which you do nothing about other then keep complaining nagging my ear about.  Bottom line, I’d rather be doing this right now because this is what I LOVE to do. 

Although you didn’t ask for it, in my opinion it’s extremely important to have things you love to do in life, passions in life that make you smile, things you can’t tear yourself away from, something that causes you to grin from ear to ear when talking about.  Seven years ago I was in a seven-year relationship with a beautiful man who I still consider a friend today and he would say to me, “you have to do what you love no matter what, you have to have something you love to do when we are apart.”  At the time I didn’t get it nor understand what he meant.  I do now!  I watched him graduate from college then do something completely different than what he went to school for because that’s what he loved and still loves to do and that’s what inspired him!  He inspired me!

I can’t speak for all females, however I do know so many women give up on their dreams and dive deep into relationships putting their all into their mate.  Yes, it’s important to spend time with your significant other, however it’s also important to break away and do what YOU love to do.  After-all time away from a mate makes the heart grow fonder and gives one a realization of how much you value the time spent together when together.  I was that female at one point in my life who’s life evolved around my mate and didn’t spend time on my own doing things I love to do.  Over the years I’ve re-found my passions in life and started to and still to this day spend a lot of my time on my passions.  I highly value my alone time because it gives me time to re-connect with my soul every time I’m taking a picture of a beautiful landscape, watching a movie I love in theatres, researching how to assist a client, playing the guitar, or simply reaching deep sleep where rapid eye movement takes place and awakening with a realization and having that AHA moment!  Doing these things and making the time to do these things keeps me smiling, keeps me motivated, they even foster new found passions in my life.  I love to write, which is why I blog, I also write poetry and short stories which is something I’ve done since I was a child.  I have notebooks from childhood of stories and poems I wrote that made me smile.

We all have something we love to do.  If you are one of those who state, “I don’t have anything I love to do, I have no hobbies.”  Bullshit!  Yes you do, you just haven’t realized it yet.  We all have something we love to do!  Think back to when you were a kid and what you dreamed of, or what you loved to play, perhaps what you are really good at, what inspired you?  We all smile, what makes you smile? 

I hear many women state my children are my life, everything I do evolves around them.  Okay that’s cute and dandy but what else?  You can do something that involves children, I have a friend who created a children’s clothing line, my Aunt created a daycare, I see women blogging about children, or Mom’s that are now coaches, Moms who are authors, Moms who are photographers capturing moments of their children’s life and spending time on Pinterest or Instagram creating!  That’s all so beautiful to me, you found something you love and created a hobby out of it!  You can explore online and find out how you can create an activity for yourself involving your children which can turn into a hobby that you love.

Men do it to! If you like to work with your hands create your passion out of something you love to do, whether it be starting your own construction business, landscape business, acting, photography, video game development, drawing, or writing a book.  There are so many things you can spend your time on that create a beautiful smile on your face.

I personally feel I can’t be with a man who has no hobbies and doesn’t know what creates a fire in their own heart.  I don’t want you to spend 100% of your time with me because I need to break away and do what I love which makes me love you more.  I’ve been in relationships where men think I don’t care about them because I’m not texting them every second of the day nor acting jealous.  I’ve been told it makes certain men feel as if I don’t care or I’m out cheating on them.  So in turn they create events to try and make me jealous or talk about so and so hitting on them or the attention they get out and about in the world.  You don’t need me to validate you and I don’t need you to validate me.  If someone is going to cheat they are going to cheat, end of story.  You are where you choose to be.  Every second of your life you have a choice, choose wisely.

I’ve been told, you’re going to miss me one day!  Okay, if I don’t miss you today nor reach out to you, chances are I’m not going to miss you…  just being honest.  This type of statement makes me feel you are desperate, have no hobbies, selfish, immature, or simply you just haven’t found yourself yet.  I've been told, "I just wanted you to feel like I needed you."  Why would anyone wish for another being to need them?  Once again, get a hobby and don't sit around wanting someone to NEED you, instead wish the best for people and take a deeper exploration of self and find what makes you want others to need you.  You should always wish the best for people, in my opinion.  I care, but I don’t care at the same time.  Meaning I care about your well-being, but I don’t care enough to assist your negative irrational thoughts.  Go get a hobby.

Sleeping around is not a hobby ladies and gents.  Yea I said it!  Sleeping around shows theirs a piece of you that you are yet to discover which fosters desires to seek bodily pleasures from another being.  Sleeping around shows your lack of hobbies, lack of commitment, and lack of personal self-worth to care-fully about your health and what you can pick up from your random sex partners.  When you have sex with someone or lay next to someone you exchange energy.  Energy is important to me and I prefer my energy to be a certain way without contamination.  After all, condoms don’t protect against everything! 

I’m on two different online dating websites, however I don’t spend my entire day on them nor do I spend my entire thought process on wishing for love, wanting a partner, or even having my conversations solely about desires to not be alone.  NO!  Chances are you will meet someone who’s most likely a great partner for you by being true and authentic to self.  I could probably do better and create times to actually go on a date, but dang most times I’d rather be doing something else.  I will probably fall in love one day, if I don’t it’s not the end of the world. 

What makes you get in bed at night and be so excited to get up to do the next day?  Whatever that is, chances are that is what you should be doing.  I’m not talking about drugs or self-loathing activities.  I’m talking about what makes your heart beat faster, what makes you smile while doing, what makes you eager to get up?  Only you can find your hobby.  Only you can find your true you.  Only you can help you the most in living a happy life and fulfilled life.

Happiness is attractive, a smile is attractive.  People who live their purpose are more attractive to me.  Those with negative outlooks or stuck in jobs they hate are not attractive.   If you don’t like your life change it.  Yes, I know it doesn’t happen overnight nor do I encourage you to be like me and just quit, unless that’s what you truly need to do.   Find your happiness and once you put it on and wear it every-day you beam with light from the inside out and have a special glow about you that attracts more and more happiness.  By being positive and happy you create an environment in your body that builds upon more positivity and happiness.  Negativity is choice.  Happiness is choice. 

We were all born one day and we will die one day, this is inevitable.  This thought alone makes me do things every-day that I love to do.  Knowing that one day I will die makes me want to live each day doing things I love to do.  I want to have memories of happy times.  I don’t want to be a person that says, “I wish I would’ve.”  I strive every-day to say, “I did and it was a fucking blast!”

NOW GO DO YOU!  I LOVE YOU!