Quality Time or Phone Time

Quality time is relative!  Relative to you and the way in which you view the world along with your place in it.  Now that I have a son I find myself constantly analyzing what quality time means to my family.  I want to ensure I'm giving my family all of me as opposed to tuned out me.

Since quality time can be viewed as relative, for me it means putting my phone down, turning off the television, moving magazines out of eyesight, and giving my full attention to my family.  I don't want to be the type of parent whom is constantly on their phone.  I want my family to know that they mean more to me then what's going on with Instagram, Facebook, or Pinterest.  Well... I don't have Facebook, I'm sure you get my drift.  I love Instagram and have recent developed a love for Pinterest, however they don't mean more to me then my family.  

The simple act of having your phone in eyesight impedes conversation, slows creativity, and reduces the simple relationship connection.  While my son is watching everything I do and say I want to ensure I'm displaying appropriate behaviors for him.  I want him to know that he deserves and will get my full attention.  I want him to know cell phones don't run this world....  at least not my world as I can't speak for all.  

I've told myself on many occasions that I'm just going to check Instagram or my email for a second, however I've noticed some seconds turn into minutes and with a couple blinks 30 minutes may have went by while my son is roaming or watching television.  I'm not a perfect human so when I do make these mistakes I ensure to check myself and put that crap away because family time is much more important to me.  

A cell phone out of eye sight can and will increase your healthy communication skills.  Put that crap away!

I Love You!

Knock Knock

Do you knock when you go to your friends or family members homes?  This simple question can turn into a big debate depending on who you talk to.

Knock Knock!  I prefer to knock!  I personally enjoy having a heads up if someone is at the front door with a knock.  Why?  What if I don't want to see you?  This gives me a chance to hide and ignore you because maybe you didn't call before showing up and I'm walking around the house in my beautiful birthday suit imagining what I'm going to do next.. hopefully make love to my man!  But DANGIT NOW YOU'RE WALKING IN!  We're trying to make a baby here, please don't mess that up!  

Need another reason- if you're anything like me I like to get in a workout whenever there is time.  Half the time that means mostly naked or halfway naked, and BAM YOU WALK IN!  My new thoughts, boy would I enjoy throwing my front door at you... I would never do this, but that thought helps me to not scream and yell at you for barging in on my five seconds of free time to work on my health.  

Even if you did call it's a great idea to announce your energy at the door before you just walk in.  Every energy is different and I personally enjoy mentally preparing my energy for yours because I don't want my energy drained completely by your visit.  Let me put it this way- YOU NEVER KNOW HOW SOMEONE FEELS ABOUT YOU so be nice and announce yourself whether you're family or even THE best friend.   You never know what someone is going through at the time and BAM you walk in!  Be nice and knock and wait for someone to come to the door.  Maybe I'm busy hiding things I don't want you to see and BAM- YOU BARGE IN!  WTFudgersicle!  

Or are you THAT PERSON- "I don't have to knock when I go to my family members or friends homes."  I'd like to personally throw a pie at your face and knock you off your high horse with your narcissistic self.  If you're that person, do me a favor please,  go look in the mirror and tell yourself- SELF< STOP BEING SELFISH!  OTHER PEOPLES LIVES DON'T REVOLVE AROUND ME AND MY SELFISH NEEDS AND SELFISH THOUGHTS!  I WILL KNOCK ON ALL DOORS!  

GOOD JOB!

With the holidays please remember to be kind and KNOCK KNOCK!

I LOVE YOU MORE WHEN YOU KNOCK! 

racism

Don't be racist.  Embrace all.  Love all.  Spread Love.  

I'm in a interracial loving relationship and continue to get dirty looks.  Sucks.  

BE LOVE.

Are You NICE?

Nice Humans... Do you know some?

Over the past few months I’ve had a few encounters with some humans who weren’t very nice?  Why?  Who knows? 

First impressions imprint into the human brain instantly.  Within the first 10 seconds of meeting someone humans judge and come to realizations, from which the human is then categorized into the human brain. Which category do you fall into when you meet people?

I know I’m not the best which means I’m definitely striving to be a nice human to those I come into contact with, but some of you humans are really testing me lately.  What would Jesus do?  What would the Dalai Lama do?  What would your Grandma do?  What would Zulekha do?  Apparently at times I will yell, flip someone off, curse, and maybe just curse someone out in my head.  I’M TRYING NOT TO DO THESE THINGS…  walk away is the best answer when it comes to the rude humans.  

In Febraury I met someone who looked me up and down like I was a piece of… oh I wont say.  This really hurt my feelings and got me thinking, wow I don’t even know this human nor does this human know me but they give me nothing but negativity.  We can’t change everyones minds about us when they choose to judge.  We can make our best attempts to not let these encounters sway us and instead we can stand tall, smile, and move forward with our lives. Afterall there are so many NICE, COMPASSIONATE SOULS, HAPPY HUMANS, GIVING NOTHING BUT UNCONDITIONAL POSITIVE REGARD.  

As humans all inhabiting this Earth let’s try and make great attempts to be nice to one another.  When we meet for the first time let’s not look at skin color, clothing, hair, stature and anything else that causes instant judgment.  Let’s smile and introduce ourselves and hope the BEST! 

I LOVE YOU.

Compliments Are Nice

Are you a human who compliments other humans?  I've really taken notice lately to how many humans "hate" on other humans.  

Recently my family and I were at an event and I overheard someone sharing some wonderful news so I ran over and threw out some compliments and then...  Mrs Debby Downer quickly jumped in with all her hating remarks while trying make her hate sound concerned and nice.  I didn't have my pie of be nice to humans to slap her with so I just complimented again when her negativity stopped.  

Where's the love?  Oh here's another, you show someone or tell someone about something amazing and they have to ONE UP YOU.  "Well that's cool, but what I have is wayyyyy better."  Why can't humans acknowledge another humans without having to show or express why "they" are "better."  

Now that I"m a Mommy I'm definitely running away fast from negative Mommy's who speak negatively about children and babies.  OOOOOHHHHHHH good example right here- the new Gerber Baby was posted today and my goodness Mommy's left the most hateful comments ABOUT A BABY!  WOW.  Kairi is a beautiful baby and wow did some of the hating Mommy's really show their ugliness with their comments.  I can only hope that those women grow quickly so they aren't teaching their children that same hatefulness.  
-------and we wonder why bullies are in schools...  it starts with the parents.  Lead by example.

Let's all take a moment and ground ourselves.  Go frolic on a beach, have a good nap, workout, read a good back, watch a happy movie, or MAKE LOVE!  Do whatever it takes to get that negativity out of you.  

Love is so much better.

Happiness is choice.

Let's all be nice humans.

Valentines Day Tip

Valentines Day Tip:

No Panties are BETTER then Red Panties

Simple Human

We recently bought a new trash can from Simple Human which got me thinking...  how simple am I?

Am I holding on to crap I know longer need because I think I might need it one day?  Am I materialistic?  Am I holding onto friends who know longer fit into my life or may even be dangerous for my life?  Simple human questions to ponder along with a whole lot more.

Just like you I live in this Universe where as humans you wouldn't even see us if taking a glance from space.  Yet, we make ourselves out to be so important and some portray they are better then others.  Are you a human who speaks to other humans?  What if that human is homeless?  Would you help your fellow human?  Although many wouldn't call it an opportunity, I had the amazing opportunity for my life to be drastically changed a few years ago and went from driving my muscle car, my own spot, and my fun life to sleeping on buses, sleeping in the streets, muscle car gone, money gone, and living daily with no place to call home.  This was the best thing that could've happened to me although I didn't realize it.  It brought me back to SIMPLICITY.

As humans we don't need much when we think we need everything.  I can't have kids until I land that job, can't travel until I make this much money, I need this car, and that toy, and gimme, gimme, and gimme some more.  We want so much all while missing the amazingness all around us every single day all day long.  Life is so simple, yet we make it so dramatic.  Why?  Who are you trying to impress human?  

I met the most amazing people on Earth when I was roaming and leaving my material possessions behind to never be seen again.  I had the best conversations with other people who didn't have all that jazz that society is selling us.  I had the best insights while sitting on the beach or simply walking.  I learned there are humans who don't have conversations about themselves and drama.  The simple act of physically moving your body forward and walking sparks creativity and gets your brain going.   I learned so much about myself by being without.  I learned so much about "friends and family."  I learned my friends and family are everywhere as we are all interconnected to one another and this amazing Universe.  I learned strangers are family members we are yet to meet.  Some should be avoided like the plague and beautiful energy sent their way because after-all, that human is also one with you which makes you them and them YOU!

How simple is your life or are you living in chaos?  Here's a simple start, remove the clutter out of your life.  We don't need to own EVERYTHING.  Shed items and humans that know longer make your life a BETTER LIFE, stop waiting!  Feathers will be ruffled and when they are be a duck, shake it off, and move forward.  Your future self will thank you for it.

WHAT CAN YOU REMOVE?
1) junk
2) humans- stop waiting for that perfect time.  DO IT NOW!
3) old clothes
4) clean your garage
5) clean your car out
6) any items blocking natural sunlight from entering your home
7) clutter out of walkways and doorways- why shouldn't you move easily throughout your home?
8) old toys
9) useless chatter in your mind- yep, that can removed too
10) negative thinking
11) negative humans
12) negativity
13) bad relationships
14) self sabotaging self talk
15) whatever is not bringing you back to simplicity

Everyday we are teaching one another whether it be vicarious or direct.  We learn from one another through observation and contact.  We learn we either want to be nothing like that human or more like that human.  We learn about ourselves by watching others.  What you see that human do that you don't like- remove the same actions that cause you to be like that human from your life.  Remove the excess and bring YOU back to SIMPLICITY.

I LOVE YOU, YOU SIMPLE HUMAN YOU.

SEX

Let’s talk about SEX baby! Are you having it?  Are you enjoying it?  Are you fearing it?

Most humans have sex whether in or out of a relationship.  Some choose multiple sex partners, some choose monogamy, some choose abstinence, and some are just plain old confused by the act.  Which are you?

I’m in a monogamous relationship, so my Love and I are only having sex with one another because that’s what we choose.  We’re nudists so other humans think we have sex with multiple humans, however we’re not lifestyle when it comes to the act.  So were having amazing sex just with each other.  I personally love sex and feel now that I’m in my mid 30’s I honestly enjoy it so much more.  I attribute increased enjoyment to increased self-awareness, insight, body acceptance, and happiness.  

When I was single unfortunately I wasn’t having much sex.  Why?  Fear of catching something.  Now that I’m in a relationship OMGoodness, SEX Please, oh were done… more sex please!

Women with children in relationships, I’m calling out to you!  Let’s have a brief chat…

Are you having sex on the regular?  Are you purposely making excuses to not have sex with you partner? Are you to tired?  Well Mama, shake all that off, take your clothes off, and jump on top of your man or lady!  Would you rather someone else do it?  Let me increase your awareness of the outside world for a second.  When your man or women leaves your home he or she will encounter and observe numerous other humans throughout their day and you know what? There will be some out of this world good looking people they come across.  They will see sex all day long, observe what’s peeking out of low cut shirts, taking a second glance at that juicy booty that walked by, noticing that bulge, and taking secret looks at those muscles.  At the end of the day are they coming home to you in a mumu looking as sloppy as you can look?

            Think on that one for a bit! 

So what can we do as women? Try!  Make an effort with the way you look, with what you put on, I’m asking you to make an attempt to be sexy.  Is that too much to ask for?  Or would you rather your partner get laid by that sexy lil thang at the gas station?  Hmmmm….  Oh, you don’t feel sexy?  What can you do to make efforts to feel good about yourself?  Workout, drink more water, stop eating your kids treats when you give them out, go for a walk with your kids, make healthy food choices, where flattering clothes, just a few things to think of…  do something that make your partner say, “dayuuum you look good,” hey sexy!”  

All the single ladies! All the single men!  How’s your sex life?  What do you want it to be?  I don’t hate on anyone who chooses multiple partners, after all Bobby Brown said it’s your prerogative.  Single people tend to do better about feeling good about themselves.  Meaning singles have increased confidence, tend to hit the gym more often, purchase flattering clothes, walk with heads held high, and all that jazz.  Protect yourself and have a freaking orgasmic blast!  If you don’t feel good about yourself, do something about it!!!!

Ladies, I’m calling out to you again!  How often are you initiating sex with your partner?  Keep your partners sexual eyes for you burning!  Are you not initiating…  start!  Your partner will be so happy!  Oh, are you one of THOSE WOMEN who get mad if your partner slaps your ass, grabs your boobs, or touches your hakunamatata?  Don’t get mad, if it’s in public the singles are secretly wishing they had that type of affection daily.  Take a lesson from your partner and the next time your partner walks by give a sexual touch or grab.  It could lead to…. ohhhh, ahhhhh, yeaaaaa!

With that said, go have fun! Oh I forgot, do you not feel like you’re good enough?  Watch a porno or have more talks with your friend who thoroughly enjoys sex and take some notes!  

Hope this post wasn’t to sexy for you...  if it was, watch a porno!  Even better, make a porno!   

I almost forgot!  Make sure you are going down on your partner!  Remember, what you don't do-that sexy lil thang at the gas station will.... so do it!!!