Quality Time or Phone Time

Quality time is relative!  Relative to you and the way in which you view the world along with your place in it.  Now that I have a son I find myself constantly analyzing what quality time means to my family.  I want to ensure I'm giving my family all of me as opposed to tuned out me.

Since quality time can be viewed as relative, for me it means putting my phone down, turning off the television, moving magazines out of eyesight, and giving my full attention to my family.  I don't want to be the type of parent whom is constantly on their phone.  I want my family to know that they mean more to me then what's going on with Instagram, Facebook, or Pinterest.  Well... I don't have Facebook, I'm sure you get my drift.  I love Instagram and have recent developed a love for Pinterest, however they don't mean more to me then my family.  

The simple act of having your phone in eyesight impedes conversation, slows creativity, and reduces the simple relationship connection.  While my son is watching everything I do and say I want to ensure I'm displaying appropriate behaviors for him.  I want him to know that he deserves and will get my full attention.  I want him to know cell phones don't run this world....  at least not my world as I can't speak for all.  

I've told myself on many occasions that I'm just going to check Instagram or my email for a second, however I've noticed some seconds turn into minutes and with a couple blinks 30 minutes may have went by while my son is roaming or watching television.  I'm not a perfect human so when I do make these mistakes I ensure to check myself and put that crap away because family time is much more important to me.  

A cell phone out of eye sight can and will increase your healthy communication skills.  Put that crap away!

I Love You!

Knock Knock

Do you knock when you go to your friends or family members homes?  This simple question can turn into a big debate depending on who you talk to.

Knock Knock!  I prefer to knock!  I personally enjoy having a heads up if someone is at the front door with a knock.  Why?  What if I don't want to see you?  This gives me a chance to hide and ignore you because maybe you didn't call before showing up and I'm walking around the house in my beautiful birthday suit imagining what I'm going to do next.. hopefully make love to my man!  But DANGIT NOW YOU'RE WALKING IN!  We're trying to make a baby here, please don't mess that up!  

Need another reason- if you're anything like me I like to get in a workout whenever there is time.  Half the time that means mostly naked or halfway naked, and BAM YOU WALK IN!  My new thoughts, boy would I enjoy throwing my front door at you... I would never do this, but that thought helps me to not scream and yell at you for barging in on my five seconds of free time to work on my health.  

Even if you did call it's a great idea to announce your energy at the door before you just walk in.  Every energy is different and I personally enjoy mentally preparing my energy for yours because I don't want my energy drained completely by your visit.  Let me put it this way- YOU NEVER KNOW HOW SOMEONE FEELS ABOUT YOU so be nice and announce yourself whether you're family or even THE best friend.   You never know what someone is going through at the time and BAM you walk in!  Be nice and knock and wait for someone to come to the door.  Maybe I'm busy hiding things I don't want you to see and BAM- YOU BARGE IN!  WTFudgersicle!  

Or are you THAT PERSON- "I don't have to knock when I go to my family members or friends homes."  I'd like to personally throw a pie at your face and knock you off your high horse with your narcissistic self.  If you're that person, do me a favor please,  go look in the mirror and tell yourself- SELF< STOP BEING SELFISH!  OTHER PEOPLES LIVES DON'T REVOLVE AROUND ME AND MY SELFISH NEEDS AND SELFISH THOUGHTS!  I WILL KNOCK ON ALL DOORS!  

GOOD JOB!

With the holidays please remember to be kind and KNOCK KNOCK!

I LOVE YOU MORE WHEN YOU KNOCK! 

Compliments Are Nice

Are you a human who compliments other humans?  I've really taken notice lately to how many humans "hate" on other humans.  

Recently my family and I were at an event and I overheard someone sharing some wonderful news so I ran over and threw out some compliments and then...  Mrs Debby Downer quickly jumped in with all her hating remarks while trying make her hate sound concerned and nice.  I didn't have my pie of be nice to humans to slap her with so I just complimented again when her negativity stopped.  

Where's the love?  Oh here's another, you show someone or tell someone about something amazing and they have to ONE UP YOU.  "Well that's cool, but what I have is wayyyyy better."  Why can't humans acknowledge another humans without having to show or express why "they" are "better."  

Now that I"m a Mommy I'm definitely running away fast from negative Mommy's who speak negatively about children and babies.  OOOOOHHHHHHH good example right here- the new Gerber Baby was posted today and my goodness Mommy's left the most hateful comments ABOUT A BABY!  WOW.  Kairi is a beautiful baby and wow did some of the hating Mommy's really show their ugliness with their comments.  I can only hope that those women grow quickly so they aren't teaching their children that same hatefulness.  
-------and we wonder why bullies are in schools...  it starts with the parents.  Lead by example.

Let's all take a moment and ground ourselves.  Go frolic on a beach, have a good nap, workout, read a good back, watch a happy movie, or MAKE LOVE!  Do whatever it takes to get that negativity out of you.  

Love is so much better.

Happiness is choice.

Let's all be nice humans.

You Are Your Thoughts

Your thoughts run your world...

Have you ever sat back and though about your thoughts?  The very act of thinking about your thoughts is called metacognition.  When our brains develop around age 12 we all have the ability to think about our thoughts.  

1) What messages do you tell yourself throughout the day?

2) What do you say about other people in your head that you come across in life?

3) Are your thoughts mostly positive or negative?

4) What is the first thing you think about when you wake up? Positive or negative?

5) Do you have a positive view of your world or negative?

6) Do you build yourself up or bring yourself down with your thoughts?

These are just a few simple questions to ask yourself.  If your'e not sure about the answer take the rest of your day to analyze your thoughts as you go about your human activities.  At the end of the day you have an awareness of what type of thinker you are.

It's extremely important to have awareness of what you tell yourself throughout your human day.  If you come to a realization that most of your thoughts are putting others down, putting yourself down, negative outlook, poor view of the world around you then you can change all of this.  It's simple!  All you have to do is bring more awareness to your thoughts and when you find yourself going down a negative thought alley, change it!  Just like that, just change it.  Here's how:

1) The world is against me/ I'm the creator of my own destiny

2) I can't stand people/ everyone is different and uniquely beautiful in their own way

3) People are toxic/ there is so much I can learn from others insecurities or negative personality traits because I see myself in others.  Once you see yourself in others you can make healthy changes

4) I hate my job/ this job is just for now and it's allowing me to apply for other jobs.  This job is just for now because it's giving me the money to work on my dreams

5) I hate the people I work with/ I can learn a lot from those I work with and they are teaching me how to communicate with difficult people

6) I'm so unhappy/ I'm grateful to have another day on Earth to begin pursuing my dreams and be the best human I can be

7) They are so annoying/ What do I do that's just like them that I can start changing to better my own character

Try to see the best in things know matter what happens!  I had a career I couldn't stand at one point.  During that time I would spend my breaks and lunch breaks writing down ways to pursue my dreams.  When I would go home I would then put time into my dreams instead of being caught in negative thoughts about my career.  

Did someone do you bad in your past or hurt you.  How long are you going to hold onto that hurt before you move on?  You are only hurting yourself at this point by not letting go.  Can't get over your divorce and how your partner treated you?  Now you are being the toxic human that won't move forward and spending to much time in negative thoughts.  Is that all you talk about, your past hurts?  I can bet other humans don't like interacting with you much because you are a Debby Downer.  Change that!  Be a positive person and shut up about your past hurts and start building a beautiful future each day!

You have the power to create your own destiny.  You can only blame yourself if you choose not to put time and energy into pursuing your dreams.  Stop blaming other humans for your downfalls and instead put time and energy into building your character, pursuing your dreams, and doing whatever it is that makes you smile.  You are the creator of your own destiny.  

Go be a better you!

Quality Time With My Family Is The Best Time

I don't want to me a Mommy who just wants to get things done.  I want to be a Mommy who spends quality time with my baby boy and my family first.  Quality time is something you can never get back nor try to replace.  Quality time for me means putting my phone down and giving my family my undivided attention.  Through my Mental Health Career over the years I learned children and teenagers just want their parents to put their phones down.  I don't want my children to feel that social media is more important then them because it's not.  Social media is a facade of a life where people paint pictures of either what they want their lives to be or flat out lie.  Yes, I have a Facebook and an Instagram but it doesn't run my life.  I hope to have my children gain from me, you don't need your phone in front of you 24/7.

Laundry will eventually get done, the dishes will get done and I'm fine with putting them off because I would rather see my son's smile, talk to my Man when he gets home from work, eat dinner together, cuddle up on the couch with my family.  These are all things which can't be replaced.  When I feed my son I don't answer the phone.  When my family is watching a movie or eating dinner together-I don't answer the phone because phone life can wait, this is family time.

When I go to my family members home's I make an effort to set my phone down and even better, leave it in my purse on vibrate because people calling and texting can wait.  I would rather give my family my undivided attention then run for my phone.  Yes, at times I do wish cell phones never happened.  They are fun, but what if they never happened?  Humans would actually be forced to talk to one another.  It's the most annoying thing to me when someone is holding my baby and then freak out because OMG their phone is going off and they make a mad dash to get to their phone.  Okay you phone controlled human, give me my baby back!  NOW!

When you're around your family remember what quality time is.  Talk to one another, if you're going to bring up the person's past speak about things which lift them up-don't focus on their past failures nor negative personality traits.  Build them up!  Put your phone down and if you're brave enough turn it off or put it on silent out of eye site because that person calling you or texting you can wait.  Theres nothing like the time you spend with someone uninterrupted when they are physically in front of you.

Now go be a nice human.

THINK Before Touching a Pregnant Belly

I would like to say sorry to all of the pregnant belly’s I touched and rubbed over the years without asking.  I never realized how annoying this was until I was pregnant and my gosh, random people would walk up to me and touch my belly.  Then say, oh is it okay if I touch your belly, as they’re already all over it. SMH

I’m so sorry to all of the women I did this to which was only a handful and to those handful, I apologize.  I’m sorry. I’m so sorry.  You should’ve threw up in my face.

If you know someone who’s pregnant it’s probably not a good idea to rub on their belly when they’re not even showing.  OMG this drove me crazy.  I promised myself next time I’m pregnant I’m not going to tell everyone because I don’t want them rubbing all over me.  Why do you feel the need to rub on someone belly when I’m not even showing?  It’s kind of rude.  

Words of advice…  If you see a pregnant female ask if you can touch their belly before you reach out your hand.  I would most likely say yes, but I do have my days when I don’t want to be touched.  If you are granted permission, don’t beat the belly.  I had a few people pat my belly so hard I wanted to drop kick them.  NO, NO, NO peeps my baby is inside I will turn the Universe over for my baby.

When your pregnant emotions are everywhere, nausea comes and goes, back aches, drunk people are annoying, hands all over you is annoying, so be courteous and keep your hands to yourself unless you are granted permission.  It’s the nice human thing to do.  

Be a nice human. Thanks. 

Are You Present?

Talks of being present have surfaced to mainstream and social media, which has me wondering if people are just talking about being present as a fad or are people actually being fully present.  hmmmm...

Over the course of the years I've read quite a few books on being present and can say I've learned quite a bit.  Does this make me a master at being present, no.  However I do try.  Being present appears to take on different definitions depending who is talking about being present.  For me being present means to actually BE.  If I'm in a conversation with another human being you wont find me checking my phone or my head wandering about looking everywhere else.  I make it a point to be fully present with the human being in front of me by giving them eye contact, actually responding back to what they are talking about, and not letting my thoughts drift off to other places.  

When you look around public places take note of how many people are on their cell phones while at lunch, dinner, breakfast, or with another human.  I meet up with different people and notice how they can't put their phones down or go running to their phone if it rings.  I understand people have children and need to stay in contact for their safety, for those who have adult children why are you running to your phone?  

If I'm working on a project I try to put my all into it, even if it's something I don't like I will make it the best I can while doing my absolute best.  I've had jobs I didn't like very much, but guarantee I performed highly being and doing the best I could.  If I'm at work and a co-worker speaks to me I actually turn and face them.  Not just my head, but my entire body so they know they have my full attention.  I personally don't prefer to talk to people who can't even look at me, it's actually kind of annoying.  Like dang, you can't put your phone down for a second to speak, or you can't spare 30 seconds out of your day to look at me.  I've worked places where I would say good morning to people walking in and they would keep their heads turned away from me and just give me a wave.  Wow, what you're doing is that important in life.  Okay buddy.  I'm going to say it, work is not that important when there is a live breathing human being.  Of course you can't diddy daddle around talking forever, however there's nothing wrong with brief eye contact and a hello.  

When you're present with another human you get to see their facial expressions and their body language, which at times says way more then what's coming out of their mouth audibly.  You can read a lot about a person by paying attention to their body language.  

Being present with children is extremely important.  After all you're showing them how to be present by exampling being present and without talking about being present.  You're teaching them how to communicate.  

Being present in nature is so amazing to let go of your thoughts and take awareness of the sound of the wind, birds singing, dogs barking, a lizard running through the brush, the precise trail of ants, the forms of the trees, the beautiful colors.  There is so much to take note of in nature that remind you of how simple and delicate life really is.  

I love to be present with our pets and watch them play, they are hilarious to watch and most importantly they enjoy and love the attention of me being present with them.  Have you noticed how pets will look you in the eyes?  

I love being present with my baby boy in the oven and feeling his kicks and movements.  What a wonderful feeling to feel his life inside of me!!!  I can't help but smile. 

A lot of being present for me means to turn off my thoughts and BE!  Turning off your thoughts is something we can all do, just stop thinking and BE!  It's so enjoyable.  

Try being present with the next person you are with and instead of thinking of your agenda and the point you don't need to make, the opinion you don't need to give, the judgment you can keep to yourself, the gossip that's garbage, just be present and listen.  Be present with your children, with your pets, with nature, with your co-workers, while washing dishes, while taking a bath.  Throw your thoughts out and turn them off and just be.  You can do it you human you, I believe in you.  

Why Leaving the Negativity Out of Family Communication Will Increase Healthy Relationships

So many families these days are blended with Step Siblings, Step Mothers, Step Fathers, and Step Grandparents compiling a big mixing bowl of new family members.  Not only are families blended with new brothers and sisters but also mixed with new cultures.  Our family comprises it all.

My parents divorced I believe almost 10 years ago now, crazy how time just pushes along and years have went by.  They are both re-married now and with their new marriages came new Step Parents and five new Step Siblings.  I can honestly say I get along well with all of of my Step Siblings and love each of their uniqueness and new personalities they bring.  I've had some highs and lows with my Step Parents and at the end of the day I check myself and remind myself that these are the people my parents chose out of love and just as any relationship there will be arguments and disagreements and most importantly am I judging them more harshly because they aren't my biological parents?  Am I treating them with love?

I was one of those who thought my parents would never divorce so when it happened it was like pigs flying to me.  Parents divorce doesn't only impact the parents but the children as well know matter what age they might be.  I was in my late twenties when my parents divorced and couldn't image their home breaking apart and at the time couldn't imagine them moving on to other people, it didn't even cross my mind.

What I've learned from my parents divorce along with many other friends and families members divorces is that if it ever happens to me, which I hope it doesn't that I will have to accept that my once partner will be in a new relationship with new children.  I will have to accept that another women may nurture my children as if they are her own and they will develop relationships with a new family.  Your children will always view you as their Mother or fFather because the love of a biological mother or father can't be replaced.  

With divorce or dissolve in a relationship you can either hate the person you're Ex Wife/Ex Husband/Ex Boyfriend/Ex Girlfriend is with or you can accept them.  Talking down about the new spouse of an ex lover to your children doesn't help, nor does talking down about your ex to your children know matter what the age.  It only makes you come across as jealous and unable to adapt.  Allowing your children to decide about the people in their lives should be completely left up to them and most importantly for you, now it's time to move forward with your happiness.  You can either continue to reflect on what could've been, how things were, how you were treated, what could've been done differently, how your ex treats their new partner differently then how they treated you, not wanting your children to develop new relationships with families, but where will this get you?  Your children know matter what shouldn't have to hear these things.  If you're saying these things, STOP!  Keep your negativity to yourself.  Instead you can focus your energy on being the best person you can be and being happy while moving forward.

If you're now with someone you don't see a future in, change it!  Don't hold on for comfort, run and change it fast because years will go on and you will continue to feel uncomfortableness.  Be an example of what a happy person is, be an example of positive change, be an example of moving forward, be an example of not speaking negatively about others, be an example of only being in a relationship if it's complete love and acceptance, be an example!

I remember years ago being in a relationship in which my partner had a child and the child's mother would send me nasty/rude texts and call me saying such negative things about me and my partner.  I could've lowered myself to her level but instead I chose to not let her negatively impact the way in which I treat her child, I never spoke negatively about her, and when I saw her I acknowledged her presence saying hi with a smile on my face everytime.  Don't let another person rob you of your happiness.  To be honest they're not the ones robbing you, you're robbing yourself.  You have a choice to choose happiness or bitter resentment and anger.  Happiness is always a better choice.

Please refrain from telling your children know matter what the age they are choosing another Mother and Father over you.  Don't guilt trip them.  Instead take a step back and re-analyze yourself while asking self, am I being love?  Could there be something I could be doing differently in a positive way.  Don't put expectations on your children, if they don't come around enough you can let them know you love spending time with them and bring up happy memories.  Refrain from putting it on them because you may just be doing something that's pushing them away.  You can ask if you are, but don't place the blame all on them.  If you ask, accept their response without being defensive and perhaps you can then ask how the relationship can move forward in a loving positive way.  It's hard for people to accept answers they don't want to hear, swallow your pride and focus on the love.

If you want a child/friend/partner to spend more time with you then start initiating.  Perhaps they need time to realize again that you are a safe place, so call them and have brief conversations keeping it all positive and one day these conversations will get longer and longer with face to face contact next.  People like to talk to people who speak happiness and positivity.  Don't speak negatively about anyone in your conversation know matter how you may feel about another, if you can't refrain from speaking negatively about them then don't bring them up.  If the other person brings them up you can say things like, "I wish them happiness," "I hope all is well with them,"  or simply change the subject.  It's that simple.  But don't intentionally bring your negativity into the conversation.  When you find yourself thinking, I wish this person would call me or come over, call them and have light convo.  Call them and set up a date to get together.  If they break the date they may just need more time.  It's not up to you to decide if it's been to long, simply just keep reaching out in a loving way.  Be love.

Yesterday I spent such a good day with my Mother, Father, Stepmother, Mother-in-law, and Love of my life.  We went to our Baby Boys 3D/4D ultrasound and we were all together.  Everyone got along and there was no negativity, it was such a memorable experience.  It was nice to see that my Mother and Father could be in the same room together and smile and be happy.  I hope you are able to provide that type of experience for your children as well.

BE LOVE, BE HAPPY.

Putting Your Phone Away Can Increase Healthy Relationships

Albert Einstein said "I fear the day that technology will surpass our human interaction. The world will have a generation of idiots." I don't know if Mr. Einstein said this, but if he did, I totally agree!!!


Have you noticed how everyone is constantly on their phone? Next time you go out to eat take a look around and notice how many people are on their phones as opposed to actually having physical human interaction and communicating with one another. The very presence of a cell phone on a breakfast, lunch, or dinner table impedes human interaction. How so? The person who owns the phone on the table feels the need to constantly check their phone, update where they are, see what others are up to instead of communicating with the one in front of them, the phone beeps or rings, causing live communication to come to a halt. Is it really that difficult to put a phone away for a 30min-45min meal with a live human being. But, can you do more then put it away, can you actually silence your phone? Wow, I know that's a big one, to put it away and silence it! How involved do you need to be with the outside world when you are having live human contact and connection?


Cell phones have always bothered me since they came about. Yes, I do own a cell phone. I have one of the fancy Galaxy Note 8 phones that cost way to much money. I'm guilty of spending to much money on a phone like the rest of society, however I'm not guilty of constantly reaching for my phone and having it on breakfast, lunch, or dinner tables. I'm not guilty of meeting up with a friend or family member and being on my phone checking social media/shopping/updating/searching, I'm not guilty of using my phone as a crutch during moments of silence with friends and family. After all moments of silence are a great time to reflect upon one another and the conversation at hand. Or to simply look around the room and be observant or look around outside and notice earth.


I will not silence my children by putting a tablet or phone in their face. Instead, I will interact with them and communicate with them. I've heard numerous children and even teenagers say they feel as if their parent or parents care more about their cell phone then interacting with them. That's just horrible and sad.


Humans have became so reliant on their phones for directions to where the simple act of navigating their own town or city is difficult without map quest. I've noticed numerous teenagers who can't read an analogue clock and can only tell time by digital. I've noticed so many people who don't know the difference between North, East, South, and West. Are we talking to our children and teaching them or are we checking in on other peoples lives on our cell phones as opposed to building a genuine relationship with another in person.


I don't have many friends because I don't believe social media is a way of keeping in contact and having genuine relationships. I prefer a phone call or meeting in person. Yes, it is nice to see pictures of friends and family on social media, however it's even better to have a live conversation. When was the last time you took the time to hand write someone a letter and send someone actual physical pictures through the mail?


I do believe cell phones can cause a negative impact on relationships, which is why if you ever share a meal with me you will not see my cell phone out. Live human interaction is so much better, genuine, and relationship building. The person on the phone can wait until I'm free to give them a call or text back. I'd rather build with the person right in front me.

Are you in a relationship just to be in one?

I was single for three years before I met the love of my life.  People would tell me, you're in your 30's and approaching mid 30's what are you waiting for?  Why don't you just get into a relationship?  When are you going to have kids? What are you waiting for, you're not getting any younger.

Are you in a relationship just to be in one?  Have you asked yourself this question?  Heres some things to consider;

1) Are you in love or feeling it growing to love?
2) Do more things bother you about your partner then make you happy?
3) Do you complain to other people about your partner?
4) Do you enjoy spending a lot of time with your partner?
5) Do you prefer to vacation without your partner?
6) Do you look at your partner and think, I'm so lucky to have found you...
7) Do you cuddle with your partner?
8) If you are a public affection being, do you show public affection with your partner?
9) At the end of the day do you think, I can't wait to see him/her?
10) Do they broaden your horizons?
11) Do they make you want to be a better person just by being with them?
12) Do you genuinely accept your partner?
13) Are you wishing you were with someone else?
14) Are you happy with your partners short comings?

Think about your answers to these questions and your happiness.  Your happiness is extremely important, after all at then end of the day when you close your eyes you are with yourself and it's good to have good reflections of the day.

I personally spent time in relationships I shouldn't have been in at all because I THOUGHT that was what I wanted until one day I said that's enough of this crap of being around someone I don't really enjoy and can't wait to get away from.  So from that day I decided I would be single until I met THE ONE.  I wouldn't go on repeated dates with people I knew I had zero future with, wouldn't repeat dates of those who annoyed me, wouldn't be with someone just for their title-which I never did, I chose to put myself first before everything and I mean everything!  My family probably felt I was floating in directions I shouldn't, but I was doing everything I loved and enjoyed doing it because after all I would rather meet someone while I'm doing something I love even if society doesn't agree with it.  I'm not trying to please society or my family or anyone else, just me.  That's a hard pill for some to swallow.

So what did I do?  I wandered, I took pictures and re-found my love for photography, I became a nudist and worked at a nudist resort, I begin to learn guitar, I read, I would wake up and just go wherever I wanted, I saw every movie I wanted to see, I sat on many beaches, played in the ocean, met new friends, went to galleries, smoked weed-hehe (not telling you to go smoke), took random road trips, laughed a lot, moved around to different cities, bought a macbook and begin writing, started my blog, started my Instagram, gave up Facebook-as it didn't and still doesn't suit me, I DID ME and enjoyed every moment of it!  I did this for almost four years, I did me!

Then one day I joined Plenty of Fish, yep I did it.  I wrote an honest profile and put up REAL pictures of myself.  Five months later I met the love of my life who completely accepts me for me and I completely accept him for him and now we have a baby on the way!

While I was out doing me for almost four years I never thought I needed to be in a relationship.  I was to busy having a relationship with myself and getting back in touch with me!  One thing I did know is I wouldn't settle and I won't.  If I happen to fall in love I will make sure it's the love of my life and not just be in a relationship to be in one.  Have you ever had a conversation with someone who is just with someone to be with someone, they sound terrible.  I stopped feeling bad for these types of people because every single day they/you have a choice to change your life, every second of everyday!  They/you choose to stay and for what reasons?

List of BS reasons people use...
1) we have kids together, well your kids are learning unhappy relationships from you!
2) we have a home together, stop being materialistic and sell that thing and go start your life!
3) we're comfortable together, doesn't sound like it from the look on your face and the way you complain about him/her..
4) we have a vacation coming up, cancel it and go on one by yourself and watch how many new friends you meet and how much more fun you have without him/her
5) were planning on buying a home, don't do it! Run while you have the chance!
6) we have to many bills together, you can pay bills while not being with someone smarty!
7) what will the neighbors say?  Are the neighbors living your life and are you living to please your neighbors?  STOP!  Go slap yourself!
8) what will my family say?  Are you living to paint a facade of a life and living for other people?  STOP!
Whatever excuse you have, it's BULLSHIT! Wake up already start living for you!

Happy Holidays

The official month of Christmas!!!  I love this time of the year filled with Christmas lights, seasons greetings from strangers, people tend to be nicer, decorations in the stores, Christmas music, and an overall great feeling!

The official countdown to Christmas starts today marking December 1, 2017.  Whether you celebrate Christmas or not, take note of how much nicer humans are!!!  I love it!!!  

Yesterday I decorated inside our home as the pets watched with youngest cat chasing me the entire time.  So funny, but little dude was in the way.  My love was excited to come home and see Christmas decorations, now the only thing we need is a tree which we will go out and get this weekend, of course it will be live for the good smell!  Our baby in the oven even has a stocking up because I'm corny like that!  My love keeps reminding me next year our baby will be out of the oven and enjoying Christmas with us, oh what a gift!

I hope the start of the month is good for all, I know for some the 1st of the month can be looked as a fresh start or a new beginning.  Whatever that looks like for you, make the best of it and enjoy every moment.  

If you don't celebrate the holidays I hope this is a beautiful month for you and if you are a Scrooge I hope you find love in your heart.  Remember love can be found everywhere; in the birds singing, pets at play, smiles of children, the eyes of your loved ones, a favorite outfit, fresh baked food, or even a good bath!  The little things make big possibilities!

Happy Holidays and I love you!!!

I'm back on Facebook Fu's!

So, I’m back on Facebook.  I admit, I joined back for the wrong reason…  haha I’m not going say the reason.  My Mom and my amazing friend Sara knows and that will have to stay between us.  It’s good to not tell the world everything, just some things….

I originally went off of Facebook because I was tired of looking at everyone’s drama in their posts.  The needle on the haystack was when I posted a song that gets me going at the gym and some hater came along and hated all over it.  I know not a big deal, I’ve posted tons of songs throughout the years and had haters, but that particular day in 2012 I had to just say goodbye to the drama and haters drinking their haterade juice. 

So now I’m back from 2012 to two weeks ago in 2017 I took a break and de-activated my account.  Now that I’m back I’m once again seeing the negativity and sad poor me stories all over the newsfeed, however this time I’m just skipping over them and not reading into the negative energy.  It’s always puzzled me why these people on Earth display every negative, sad, depressing mood, angry, irritated moods…  It’s one thing to bring awareness and another to just be a repetitively sad/angry story teller.  

What’s different this time for me?  This time around after my four-year hiatus I’m high jumping over the negativity and posting my photography with my randomness of sayings.  It’s more of a photographical journey for me with positive sayings to spread more love and happiness.  I’m only attempting to show the world my photography and make Earth people smile a little bit more.  After-all, what’s wrong with smiling?  It’s also nice to see how people have changed over my four-year hiatus and see the new families, life journeys, and positive happenings in people’s lives.

It was a little overwhelming for me the first day back on Facebook because I couldn’t figure out how to do much, so once again I walked away.  Not long this time, I said I would get back on so here I am back on Facebook trying to see if I can take it over with happiness.  It won’t be that difficult because at the end of the day I know everyone prefers to be happy!  I know I do!  I LOVE YOU ALL!  See you on Facebook!